Why are people insatiable

Our daughters may never be satisfied by their wardrobe despite the monetary investment. Our sons may always desire a better car. My son is still complaining about the Prius we let him drive. When they understand desire and its true purpose they are free to shift to a different perspective. I know when I embraced this concept I felt relieved and free.

When desire starts to appear in my life, I notice it and consider the object and purpose of my desire. If my desire is for an essential item like healthy food and it is within my means to obtain it, I pursue it. If the desire is coming from an unhealthy place like jealousy my neighbor just bought a new car or a need for external validation this jewelry will up my social status , I let the feeling of desire pass because it will.

I remind myself that possessing such nonessential things in life will not bring me more joy or fulfillment. If the desire is particularly persistent, I seek to find joy and fulfillment elsewhere. I meditate, take in the beauty of nature, spend time with my children or spouse, call a friend, visit a neighbor, play with a pet, take a moment to notice all the things I have for which I am grateful.

The feelings generated will easily suppress the unhealthy desire. If the desire persists beyond those tactics, I look underneath the desire for the why. From Liesl's blog: 36 ways to study words.

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Answers to review questions: 1. Returning now to our compulsive drives and their high emotional pay-off, it's much more likely that our relentless pursuit of these drives is an attempt to satisfy an emotional response that was never provided. The famous psychoanalyst Heinz Kohut said:. They turned to drive gratification and later remained fixated on it because they tried to relieve their depression — they tried to escape the horrible feeling that nobody was responding to them.

Tolpin, P. The way out is the way through. Instead of trying to heal ourselves by another attempt to either satisfy or deny these insatiable drives, we need to start directly addressing the parts of ourselves that have never been adequately responded to and that still, after all these years, crave something that they had never received. It's a long journey, and therapy can provide enough help to make it possible.