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A new way to think about love. The most common issue in any relationship is the communication barrier. More Laughter. Words of affirmation are any verbal expressions of affection, validation, or care. People who have this love language usually really like receiving compliments, hearing their partner say what they like about them, and the words "I love you" and all its sweet variations.
Physical touch includes any form of physical contact between two people to show affection, such as kissing, holding hands, sex, and cuddling. People with this love language tend to enjoy "touchy" relationships, public displays of affection, and being held close by their partner. Quality time is the time two people spend together really enjoying each other's company.
People with this love language really value partners who make plans regularly, show up, and just want to spend tons of time hanging out with them, whether it's a fancy date night or chilling on the couch talking until dawn.
Gifts are exactly what they sound like: physical items given to show someone you're thinking of them or to express feelings of love or care. People with gifts as their love language feel most loved when their partners bring them tangible gifts, particularly ones that are clearly meaningful, personalized, or seemed to take a lot of time, effort, thought, or resources to give. Acts of service are thoughtful gestures meant to meaningfully make someone's day better or easier, such as making them coffee in the morning, bringing them food when they're sick, or being willing to make a personal sacrifice so they feel content.
People with this love language see meaning in actions and feel loved when their partner is really making an effort for their sake.
To figure out what your love language is, consider the way you express affection to the people you love—whether friends, family, or romantic partners. Do you tend to cuddle with them on the couch? Or do you like to shower them with compliments and verbal affirmation? Or maybe you prefer to make big gestures of care, like showing up unannounced to drive them home from the airport? Or maybe the biggest way you show you care is by picking up the tab at brunch or grabbing something for them while shopping when you see something you know they'll like.
The way you show people you love them—and the way you want them to show you love—are usually clear indicators of your love language. You may have more than one love language, or you might have one primary love language and a few secondary ones. You may have one love language for how you like to receive love and a different love language for how you like to give love. For example, words of affirmation might be what you need from others to feel loved, but the main way you show love to others might be acts of service.
The more important one to pay attention to is the receiving language—how you want to receive love and how the people around you want to receive love. The giver should attune to the receiver's love language, as the point is always to make the receiver feel loved in the way they will actually appreciate. The most effective way to know your partner's love language is to simply ask them which of the five languages they most enjoy receiving.
This is their primary love language, the one you should primarily use to show them affection. You can also ask them which of the five languages they most frequently use to show others love, which will help you recognize when they're trying to show you they love you.
Knowing your love language is important so you can let your romantic partners and other important people in your life know how to give you the validation you need. I feel loved when people take time to understand my feelings. I feel secure when someone close to me is touching me. Acts of service make me feel loved. I appreciate the many little things that people do for me.
I value gifts that people make for me. I really enjoy the experience of one-on-one, undivided attention. I really enjoy it when someone does some act of service for me. I feel loved when people touch me. I feel loved when people do things to help me. For my birthday, I feel loved when I receive a gift. For my birthday, I feel loved when someone speaks meaningful words to me. I know someone is thinking of me when he or she gives me a gift.
I feel loved when someone helps me with my chores. When I like someone, I make contact with the person hug, shove, high five, etc. I appreciate it when someone remembers special days with a gift. I like knowing that people are concerned enough to help with my daily tasks. I enjoy full-day adventures or trips with someone close to me. Getting a kiss from a parent or older relative makes me feel loved. Receiving a gift for no special reason from a parent or older relative makes me feel loved. I like to sit close to people I enjoy being with.
I appreciate when someone tells me how attractive I am. I need to be touched every day. I need words of affirmation every day. Give me a hug! You are terrific! Ask the child which statement they would prefer to hear.
I've got a special birthday present for you! I'll help you with your project. Let's go to a movie. Give me a high-five! You are so smart! Have you made your Christmas list? Would you help me cook dinner? I like going to fun places with you! Give me a kiss! You are 1! I've got a surprise for you. We can make something really cool. Let's watch TV together! Tag, you're it! You did a great job! You've earned a special surprise!
You can invite your friends. Let's go to your favorite restaurant.
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